Thursday, November 26, 2009
A Time to Heal... Appologies to the Penguins
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Last night, my husband and I were watching "Planet Earth". In this particular episode, they depicted the story of the strong-willed Emperor penguins who endure exhausting travel, starvation, and danger from predators and where the parents take turns guarding the egg and baby chick for a period of several months. At one point in the episode, after keeping the eggs safe and warm in the harshest of the Earth's winters, some of the chicks get lost and freeze. I could not help it... I got angry at the (stupid) parent penguins. Why didn't they keep an eye on their babies? Couldn't they see the storm coming and make sure that their little one was with them... safe (as in not lost in the blizzard)?
This morning with a little more perspective, I realize I was a little (a lot) jugemental of the mom and dad penguins. I am sure that penguins don't receive signals from the Weather Network providing them with predictions of winter blizzards. Also, I realize that the creators of the documentary don't show the parents during or after the blizzard, where undoubtebly, they were in a panic looking for their precious babies and were heart-broken after the storm.
You see, penguins and people are a lot alike. We do all we can to protect our babies but we don't have the luxury of knowing the future. I guess this is the first step to healing... accept that you did everything you could possibly do but that sometimes nature and the universe having bigger and better plans for the smallest and most precious babies.
This morning with a little more perspective, I realize I was a little (a lot) jugemental of the mom and dad penguins. I am sure that penguins don't receive signals from the Weather Network providing them with predictions of winter blizzards. Also, I realize that the creators of the documentary don't show the parents during or after the blizzard, where undoubtebly, they were in a panic looking for their precious babies and were heart-broken after the storm.
You see, penguins and people are a lot alike. We do all we can to protect our babies but we don't have the luxury of knowing the future. I guess this is the first step to healing... accept that you did everything you could possibly do but that sometimes nature and the universe having bigger and better plans for the smallest and most precious babies.
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- Mireille
- On November 6th, 2009, I gave birth to our angel Adelle at 34 weeks. She had already grown her wings... I am going through a difficult time and am learning a lot about myself and what it means to be the mommy of an Angel. I hope that by sharing my experiences, other angels' moms will find some comfort in knowing they are not alone. I am married to the most wonderful man on Earth. I am blessed with the most precious family and friends. My heart will always be full of love for my Angel Baby Adelle.
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A time to heal, no apologies required to the penguins, I'm sure they would understand. I have great respect for penguins after watching “March of the Penguins” a few years ago. Sometimes we think to ourselves, animals are lucky, they don’t have any worries, but in their own way they feel sadness when something goes wrong. Look at Sam not eating when Dad is away and recently we could all see that Bailey was feeling everyone’s sadness.
This blog is definitely not depressing Mireille, and I’m sure it will help you. It shows your strong side; when it would be so easy to crawl into bed and try and block out the world, you choose to share your thoughts and try to understand why life sometimes makes you go through something so heartbreaking that it seems like nothing will ever be the same again. Letting your feelings out, whether they be sadness, anger, frustration, or anything else you might be feeling is normal. And believe it or not it helps with the healing process, whatever that may be. A time to heal, but how much time, if only it could go away overnight. If only it could be as easy as applying a band-aid when you hurt yourself or taking some sort of medication when you’re sick. Healing the body is sometimes easier than healing the mind or the soul. They say time heals, and it’s true, only with time will the sadness go away; it does not mean that you forget, but time does make it easier to accept. But time is not the only healer, it has some helpers, caring family and friends make the healing journey easier day by day. They say things happen for a reason, but sometimes you wonder, what reason, it just doesn't make any sense.
I can’t even begin to imagine the emotional pain that both you and Martin are going through. I had a miscarriage after three months of pregnancy and I can remember the feelings of sadness, depression and yes, anger. I remember thinking, why me? I knew of people who had miscarriages and I always felt sad for them, but never realized how painful it was until it happened to me. It's sad when a pregnancy ends with a miscarriage but it is not comparable to your loss so late in your pregnancy. To see you and Martin go through so much pain was heartbreaking for us as parents. We would have done anything to make your pain go away. You and Martin are both strong and together you will get through this with the love and support of your family and friends.
Just know that you and Martin gave us something very special this year, the joy of expecting our first grandchild, nothing can take that away. You were the perfect mother-to-be, always taking care of yourself and we were so proud of you. We hope that you know that Adelle will always have a special place in our hearts. We didn’t get to know her, but it doesn’t stop us from loving her, she will always be loved and never forgotten. Our little grand-daughter is in a special place.
We love you both very much and we are always here for both of you.
Mom et Dad Roy XOXOXOXOXO
I had tried to post this comment the same day you started your blog, but for some reason it never worked. I could have posted it on Facebook, but I was commenting on your blog, not just any comment on Facebook. So, here we go, trying again, maybe the new year will do it.
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